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[Solved] The law sucks!!


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Hi, I split from my soon to be ex wife and mother of my son in March 2010. She moved out into rented accomodation and all seemed to be as good as could be expected.
Later that year my wife told me she wanted to move back into the house which was in both our names as she could no longer afford the rent on her place. First it was moving in April 2011,May 2011 etc etc......... on and on the dates kept changing.
I met somebody new and she moved in with me in April 2012 along with her 21 year old daughter,this is when things got interesting.

My Wife somehow got a court order instructing me to allow her to move back in on 1st Nov 2013,delivered by her and 2 Police Officers at 11:30 1 Monday night. Sure enough the 1st November arrived and she moved back,so there are 4 adults and my wifes numerous cats living under 1 roof!!!

On the 12th November she got another court order stating that my partner,daughter and me had to leave the property by 16th Nov and I was not allowed to return.How can this be right? I bought the house in 1988 long before my wife was on the scene.
I keep reffering to her as my wife...Witch would be a better word as now that she has got her wish with the house she is demanding more maintenance of nearly £400 per month for my son.

I forgot to mention that I never raised a finger to her,never cheated on her and she never wanted for anything,my only crime was to discipline her daughter (from a previous marriage) on a couple of occasions.

My solicitor has basically told me I havent got a leg to stand on (after payng her the best part of 2k)

Apologies for my wittering on but I would love to hear from anyone who has been a victim of the [censored] laws for Dads in this country..

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 ak57
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[censored] [censored] what a night mare. How old is your son ?

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Thanks for replying. My son is 12 and fortunately we have a very strong bond and I see him every Tuesday and every other weekend so that helps a wee bit.
I have a very understanding partner who is my soulmate and best friend,we have no secrets and tell each other everything which is how it should be.

We now rent a property in Bracknell but may have to move to a smaller place if my sons maintenance increases,which means I wont be able to have him stay over 🙁 I will get through this even though its very hard and my Solicitor is next to useless.

I will keep you posted after I have seen her on Thursday.

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I'd ask this in the legal section.

it may be worth getting in touch with another solicitor to give you a second opinion

personally i'm bemused at how your ex can do that if it was your house way before you split....but then nothing surprises me the way my ex has been! and the way most separated fathers seem to be treated.

i'm no chauvanist......but what ever happend to equallity of the sexes? seems all onesided now and not on a fathers side!!!!

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 actd
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I agree with d-i-d - if your solicitor isn't getting the correct results, then if he's right, there's no point in continuing to pay him for his services as it will achieve nothing, and if he's wrong, then there's still no point in paying him for his services as you're paying for bad advice. You certainly need a second opinion, either another solicitor or the Citizens Advice Bureau.

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