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hi all my wifes sister is about to go court with cafass to try and get her son back who run off to his dads over xmas time now me and the boys dad was mates now about 12 months ago i dun a silly thing i grew a weed plant n me and the lads dad smoked it over the next couple months now cus he as ad a crb check dun by cafcass and he got several class b drug charges on there and the mother as non its not looking good for him he as said that when he goes for his cafcass meeting he is going to tell them that i grew the plant ect and he even going to get his son to say he saw it NO 1 saw it not even the wife or any of my 3 kids who live here what im trying to find out is will this affect the sister inlaw when it comes to cafcass??? even tho im nuffin to do with the court n cafcass ect if cafcas do act should i expect a visit from the law??? im hopeing that cafcass will just want to keep it between the father n mother and boy as its nuffin to do with me any one got any info that might help me please... thank you
Hi, think Ive understood what you are saying. Im presuming hes saying all this so the wifes sister looks bad. Does she live with you ?. How old is the child and why did he stop at Dads and not return to Mums
hi mate thanks for the reply yea he is just saying it to make us look bad i supose its the only thing he got to chuck in..as for the lad he is 13 years old and up untill 12,14 months ago he never new who is dad was his dad never wanted to no him and just over a year ago they started to see each other and the boys behaviour went bad and fast me n the wife kept out of it but the dad turned the boy against his mom and it turned out that they planed for him to run off there the polie was called but because he was not in any danger they could not move him from there and its in the courts hands but with his crb check 9 charges for dif things 4 of them for class b drugs its not looking good for him can he drag me into this for a weed plant ?? 12 months ago aswell
Hi, dont worry this has nothing to do with you, its between your wifes sister and her ex, so I wouldnt worry about what happened 12 months ago, ( hope your house is clean now !!) He asnt got a great record as he ? and as long as your wifes sister is clear I would think he will be ordered to go home
The cafcass and court will only be concerened as to the childs welfare, they will talk to the child as he is 13 and his school etc . But it may well be that they return him to Mum if the Dad isnt a good influence. But if he doesnt want to go it will be very difficult for your sister inlaw, having a angry 13 year old around (what fun !)
yea my house is clean now and as for wifes sister yea she clean aswell she never been in trouble with the law so all good her end aswell thanks for ya help mate nice1
I am in no way condoning the use or drugs of any class but if it’s just you and he who knew about “the Plant” then I’d guess it has to be his word against yours should someone come knocking on your door!
The only thing I’d guess you’d have to worry about is if you’ve still got drugs about! i see you say in your last post you don't so i'd not worry too much.
Hi there 🙂
I wouldn't worry... as has been said you are not involved in the case and as long as the sister tells the truth she should be ok. The important points to stick to in my opinion are ~
She has no record, the father has previous convictions for drugs.
The son has gone off the rails since the father came on the scene.
The allegations of the father are without proof and could be to cover and deflect his own wrongdoing and previous history.
If he tries to drag you into it for 1 plant 12 months ago, I dont think any of the authorities will be in the slightest bit interested in looking into it. To put it in some sort of perspective for you, my sons ex was raided and 33 plants found, nothing has even happened to her, and she still has custody of her daughter.
hi there thanks for the info it seams to be what every one is saying nuffin to worry about i it was 1 plant not 33 lol keep me posted on what happens to him please
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