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Hi, ive recently bought my son to live with me as he is not happy with he's mother, i am now taking her to court for custody, he is not safe living with her as her parents are on social services list and her sister. I gave up work to care for her and my son because apparently she was not able to due to her poor health, now she's saying she can, [censored] take i know, ive basically been used for the last few years and ive done eveything for her and my son, school runs, park, bike rides, anything fun was time spent with me. he has even told the poice that he wants to stay with me as she phoned them and told them i was dangerous and he was not safe. when the police came they were more than satisfied. any advice would be most appreciated and if any one knows what sort of chance i might have it would also be very much appreciated. thanks to all
One of the main things is gathering evidence of why you think the mother is unable to care for your son & you are. Recording things that happen with dates, times etc... will be useful. Keeping any emails or texts that prove what you're saying is also a good idea. How old is your son? Are you planning on using a solicitor or representing yourself?
Hi rusty
You need to get your son as settled into your house as fast as possible, make sure he has lots of friends, establish routines, basically make sure that when it gets to court (and don't hurry it too much) that they have every reason to leave your son with you and as little reason as possible to go back to your ex. At his age, your sons views will also be taken into account by the court.
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