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We were living in our dream 300k 5 bedroom 3 storey house.Two young sons - perfect family. She had an affair, and left taking my beloved boys with her. I had to sell the house, the court awarded her 80% of the equity plus the kids.
Result - 10 years on, after her and her new husband started new businesses which have subsequently gone bust, she is living in a council house and I am living in a very small house with my new partner and her kids.
I see my boys every week, and they love me as much as I do them. My eldest said to me " you know what Dad, if you and mum had stayed together and we were with you all the time, I dont think we would have been anywhere near as close as we are now"
The moral is - Divorce f**ks you financially, but after a lot of years of pain, it has many positives emotionally - eventually !!!!
I'll 2nd that, it's a tough process but when you can come out the other side better off its a all worth it.
Welcome along, feel free to join in and share your experience as it may help others and that's what this Site is about.
Darren
Have to agree I've had more special times with my children as a single dad than I ever had when I was with their mother ..
She also had an affair in 2001 and had both children and the house ,,, I've never really settled again never felt comfotable ..
I'd never go back to her either she has proved to be a good mom but a really bad parent and x partner
Hi Guys
Whilst I admire your honesty and think it is great that you are really close to your kids - it almost suggests that you have to get divorced to be close to them!!!
I am sure that you didn't mean that!
From a happily married guy who thinks he is close to his two kids
Good point - did rather come across the wrong way :boohoo:
If you have been lucky enough to find the right girl to be mother to your children, then that beats all other options 🙂
I think when your in a unhappy marriage your children suffer and you spend so long trying too keep everything going they suffer more.
The relief of not being trapped in a dead relationship gives you time and energy to concentrate on your children again.
If your happy in a marriage then there is no issue and you can be happy in both senses I was happy at the start so all was good, but by then end I was avoiding being at home so I wasn't in her company which meant when she was around I didn't see my son, when I had days off while she was at work me and my son had great time together but it just didn't work when the 3of us were together.
Darren
Agreed ,,
I was lucky I never was married ! And what I mean with regards to time with my children is quality time without anyone else telling us who to be or what to do .
I'm not against females I have many good friends that are single wommen ....I've had partners but it has always boiled down to one thing ,,, control and I think I'm not alone in saying this .
I have this theory that a guy is like the earth slowly rotating changing over millions of years in little ways we are controlled,, a female is like the universe it expands into unknown origins at unknown spreeds without control !
(me) As a guy I'd be happy with family friends loving caring people around me and a caravan or boat to live in ... Just happiness.
Most female friends I have can't understand this and strithe to build or compete .
Hope I'm not offending anyone just saying it as I see it ?
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