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hi a little bit bout me is i have a son that is 2 and he is 3 in dec and im 19 year old also i have split up with the mother on mutal terms but eva since then i havent heard nothing about my son or anything so im worried so i dunno wa to do. sorry bout the rant buh had to say it some where lol
Hi James.
Having been through it, splitting up is a nightmare. No matter who you are or how much life experience you have all any caring person can do is think of your lad and how you're missing him.
First things first. You do not seem to have agreed with your ex any kind of arrangement to see him on a regular basis. Might I suggest that you do that as your first thing. What is vital there tho is making sure your ex understands just how much he means to you. You also need to explain to her that you want to be part of 'his' life. This can become a bit fraught as sometimes mums see it as you wanting to be part of her future life too. You have to put it so that she sees it as a bit of a break and an opportunity to find someone else.
I don't mean to be rude or anything but I must say this too. Don't [censored] either of them about - EVER. Dads very rarely understand just what a massive infulenece they have on their kids even tho they may only see them infrequently. Dont let him down, talk to him regularly on the phone and let him know he can ALWAYS phone you - even at 3!!
Good luck. Now pick up the phone to your ex and get something sorted. 😉
thanks mate na i rang the other day to find out why ive not herd from her n found out her fone been cut off n not just that she bk with her ex
Hi James
I hope now that you know the reason for the lack of communication, you will be able to sort out regular contact to see your son. Even though you and your ex have split up, nothing can take away from you that you are your little boy's dad. He has the right to know both of his parents as he grows up and he will benefit from knowing that you love and care for him and want to be an involved dad. Good luck and I hope you and she can sort out an agreement without having to resort to mediation or the courts, always a last resort.
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