[Solved] convincing kids they need their dad?
Can anyone recommend strategies or books to help kids realise they need their Dad?
I have a 14 year old girl, and a 13 year old boy, both live with their Mum, and used to visit me every other weekend and half of their holidays. We have been divorced for 3 yrs.
Whether through adolescence, inconvenience, rebellion (I expect them to maintain good behaviour when they visit), resentment towards my new partner, or something more serious like parental alienation, I do not really understand why they have 'decided' to stop coming.
I text them and talk regularly on the phone, but i am really, really missing them.
I don't really want to go to court. Mediation hasn't really helped, as Mum doesn't agree that the kids should participate, and she refuses to pay, and says 'she cannot force the kids' to abide by the suggestions of the counsellor!
I would like to appeal directly to the kids... Any ideas? Please?
I know this may not help a great deal (and others may have better ideas) but keep a dialogue going with them - they are at an age where they have other thing to do with friends etc, and I'm afraid that the parents can often come a poor second - this would be the case even if you were at home with them. At some point, they are going to get through this stage, and as long as you still have contact, then hopefully they will want to see more of you.
You could also try to arrange some activities that they might enjoy doing with you on an occasional weekend.