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Hi,
I appreciate that there are some guys here with problems far worse than this but I would still like some advice on my situation.
My wife and I are divorcing and she has taken my 3yo daughter back to live with her in the States. We have no issues other than money and distance. I love my daughter and spent a great deal of her life as the main parent. I am able to skype with her and see her whenever I want (but can't afford to go to the states more than once every 1 or 2 years). The situation is very painful and I miss my girl more than anything.
I am not a wealthy man (children's nurse) and I cant afford counselling but feel that I need it. I am already on ssri's but they will only do so much.
Could anyone offer any ideas for counselling or even just coping with this situation. And is there anyone else who is in a similar situation, and what do you do about it.
I would appreciate anything constructive anyone has to say on this matter.
Thanks
That's a very tricky one as there is obviously no easy solution. One thing that has been suggested before is that you keep a video diary of how you feel to show to your daughter - either by email, or for the occasions when you do see her.
Anyone else any ideas?
Hi there 🙂
I think divorce and having your child relocate thousands of miles away is a very big deal.....As a nurse you are used to being the one that looks after others, so it's not easy being the one that needs some looking after!
Anti depressants can only do so much as you say, I'm sure you could approach your GP and request a referral to a counsellor....or perhaps the RCN could support you, I think they also offer counselling services....what about Occupational Health, would they help?
I seem to remember a friend of my sons goes out to the US and works at a summer camp....Is it called camp America...anyway I think he gets his fare paid and a wage, it might be worth looking into something like that.
I wish I could give some constructive advice, it will take time, but I'm sure you will develop coping strategies that will help you deal with your feelings of loss.
It's not quite the same, but I lost my brother on the 8th September last year and on the 9th September I joined this Forum and threw myself into helping others... and do you know it was my lifeline! Taking on board others suffering somehow diminished my own...as a nurse I should think you can appreciate what I mean.
Best of luck and if you need to talk were here.... 🙂
Hi There,
I think as has already been said there is no easy answer, the video diary would help, but also maybe a diary for yourself, one that you write your thoughts and feelings rather than what you have done each day, writing things down may help straighten your head and help you come to terms with the seperation.
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