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Dilemma: I am going to become a first time father in autumn but have an opportunity to be interviewed for a significant promotion at a different organisation that would offer a reasonable increase in pay as well as excellent progression. I am in my late twenties.
My concern is that this could be poor timing given the arrival of my child and I am struggling to weigh up the financial set up benefits against the cost of time with my wife and new born. I would greatly appreciate some opinions from other dads who have been through this stage and particularly if there is an 'ideal' phase of your child's life to consider promotion which will be of least damage.
P.S - I know that time with my children will be precious but feel that ensuring their standard of living is a major part of my responsibility as a father. Sleepless nights aside.
Opinions appreciated - and yes, I'm new!
Hi DCY82 and welcome to the forum.
How about you go to the interview, but give them a grilling - tell them what your position is, what your expectations are, and what you'd like them to do for you, as well as what you can do for them. It may well be that they will afford you certain concessions to get you in the job.
That way, if you get the job, then you have the best of all worlds. If you don't, you're in the same position as you are now, except that you know the job wasn't the best thing for you and your family.
This is a good way of looking at it, when you go for an interview it is much about interviewing them as it is them interviewing you, though it's very rare for anyone to really probe the interviewer it really isn't a bad thing, and I have found being open in an interview about what you are looking for and what you expect can gain some respect.
In my last role I used to carry out interviews and most now work off a scoring system to ensure a fair review of each person, every interview structure I have seen stops scoring before the point of asking if you have any questions.
Whats the job?
Some good advice. Thanks.
The role is Assistant Headteacher which is a reasonably big promotion from my position as Head of Year. Its something im excited about doing but do not want it to the detriment of my job as a dad.
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