Hi guys need advice,
Every single year its Xmas or my sons birthday i have to same issue and can never resolve it and wondering if any of you have same problem.
I always think it works better if separated parents buy what they want for their kids for special occasions like bday or Xmas and me and my ex think so differently because she thinks kids hould get every thing that they want and if she can't afford it she will give me a list and send me a message "son has requested this for his birthday he will be so pleased with you" after I've done £200 of shopping and FINISHED and she keeps adding everytime he spots something.
I prefer to be spontaneous and don't believe in lists and may get 1 present he wants and others what I think he would like ,sorry to rant but after a 13 hour day I feel stressed getting presents demands from my ex because I don't want any stress or arguments before bed or I won't sleep
If you are separated then i believe its entirely up to you what you get your children. Although its great to co-parent you shouldnt have to feel you have to buy an entire list of presents cause your ex says so
If I was being cynical, I would say that you ex is probably encouraging him to inflate his list so that you have to buy more. It is entirely up to you what you buy - is your ex spending a lot less than you? Perhaps you can come up with an agreed list beforehand, split equally in terms of cost and you both stick to those lists.
Part of me thinks its her bipolar because she goes from one idea to the next without thinking anything through.
After £200 of shopping and finishing what I wanted to get him I see this amazon image of a audio marvel toy at £98 on my whats app soon as I get back from work and sit down!!!!
I'm thinking no way am I spending £90 on something he won't even use after a week,I simperly changed the subject and sent images of cake I made and she forgot haha !!