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Change in child arrangements


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(@dado1)
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Hi I'm new to this and really need some advice. For last 2 years I've been having my daughter Friday, Saturday Sunday, (stays every other Sunday so can take her to school) ex has her in the week and has chosen this arrangement as I wanted more equal care so weekdays and weekends are split fairly. I've changed my hours to make it possible, the thing that has delayed me applying for equal care is that I'm waiting for matrimonial home to be sold which I had to go through court to do. She agrees on equal care then changes her mind. It's now at the situation where she has proposed alternative every weekend and she has her Monday to Friday leaving me with just every other weekend which reduces my time significantly... I have not agreed to this but wondered if this went to court would this be realistic to reduce my time like this. She doesn't want me to have her in the week as she gives that time to her family members. 

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(@dadmod2)
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hi,

if you live close by and there's no safeguarding concerns, I think it will be difficult for court to reduce your time with kids, no valid justifications. if she is doing it for financial reasons, then courts will take very dim view of her and won't like that. going to be very costly process if you use solicitors/barristers. with right guidance you can self represent. feel free to contact me if you need advice. sending you private message.

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(@jacksmith)
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As a father who's been through similar struggles I know it can be frustrating when agreements keep changing, especially when you're prioritizing your child's well-being. Courts generally favor stability and the child's best interests, so your history of involvement matters. Stay firm, document everything and I would consider legal advice.

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(@kurbankassam)
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I am also going through the court process now after six months of attempting to convince my wife, following separation, that we should have an equal relationship with our child through the school term and the holidays. She has consistently denied me an opportunity to participate in my daughter's school life, so it's her exclusive realm. I have managed to negotiate only 3 nights out of 14 - one Friday school pick up to Sunday and then the following Friday school pick up to Saturday morning. I am applying for 6 nights out of 14, but as my wife has been our child's primary carer and our child is settled in this new routine I am unsure what the court will do. I believe it is essential you gain legal advice, even if you end up as a litigant in person.

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