I have a final hearing for our children in a couple of weeks (the original hearing was due for May but delayed due to COVID).
Children's Services have contacted me with concerns over our children following a referral by their mother. I have been informed that our children are very upset when with their mother on the lead up to their contact days with me.
The children have not shown any signs of being upset when with me and we have had lots of fun.
However, they are now seemingly too upset or scared to mine on contact days and Children's Services told me that the children would not speak when asked about me. They are now undertaking further investigations and I fear that the final hearing will be delayed again.
I am very concerned about what seems to have happened to the children over the last few weeks and the concerns they have, almost as if they have been spoken to about the court hearing or made me out to be some sort of animal.
Has anybody had any similar situations and what approach did the Court and Children's Services take?
Thanks
Hi superdad2019,
how old are your kids? can you share a bit of background to your court hearings?
Its very transparent/obvious that mum is causing your children to be anxious and childrens services should be told its because theres a final hearing due to take place in a few weeks time. Mum doesnt promote contact and children are absolutely fine when in your care. I assume you got cafcass at your final hearing.
What contact has been recommended by cafcass for final hearing
Hi Bill
They are 7 and 9. The Court hearings have been pretty straightforward so far.
Various false allegations were raised at the first hearing but these were not taken any further. I obtained an interim contact arrangement at the 2nd hearing after mum had stopped contact some 18 months previously.
Children's Services have been involved before on one (non) issue, which a report was produced that stated no further investigation or action required. This (non) issue has again been raised by mum close to the final hearing and again stopping access claiming the children don't want to see me. This after being absolutely fine for weeks during interim contact,
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Its very transparent/obvious that mum is causing your children to be anxious and childrens services should be told its because theres a final hearing due to take place in a few weeks time. Mum doesnt promote contact and children are absolutely fine when in your care. I assume you got cafcass at your final hearing.
What contact has been recommended by cafcass for final hearing[/quoteThanks Warwickshire1. That is my opinion too and I told Children's Services this but I am worried they will just see this as [censored] for tat. The children are over anxious about Covid and are told to wear a mask at all times when with me, I totally understand anxiousness as I am careful too but there is anxious and over anxious.
CAFCASS recommended a steady reintroduction of contact (which has been done over the summer) followed by the reintroduction of overnight stops, something Mum is well against and is seemingly making the Children against too.
hopefully children services look into it properly. they may discover that mother is alienating the kids against you.