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Hi
i have a 3 year old. I’m really struggling with how distracted I get in social situations to the point I can’t relax
its hard to explain, because I don’t fear her being hurt. But I can’t focus on anything else other than her.
There are zero issues in the family, she’s happy well loved by a massive family.
whats strange is if we go away as a couple without her. I don’t worry!?
it seems to be when I’m in the same place as her. A constant eye on her.
i look at other parents and they can engage in situations a lot more than im able to
I try to think what’s the worse thing that can happen. Example, I’ll creep around the house if she’s asleep. But everyone else is loud. It really stresses me out. Firstly she’s never actually woken because of it. Second, what’s the worse thing. She wakes up.
I understand it in my head but I can’t shake it
help!
hi,
I think naturally you will be protective over a 3 year old child, which is perfectly normal. I think all you can so is ensure that wherever you are with child, try your best to keep her in a safe environment. it's great that you have family support to assist you also.
Worrying as a parent is very normal! Your daughter is very fortunate to have a loving Dad and a supportive family. Keep on challenging your worries, just as you are already doing, and keep talking to your partner and family about how you are feeling. Try to keep finding regular opportunities to spend one to one time with your daughter, maybe somewhere where you feel safe and with fewer distractions such as at home, and enjoy being in the moment with her. Let the play be child-led, and put your phone and your other worries aside. These focused one to one times (even just for 10 minutes) will help you continue to build a strong bond with your daughter and will help you learn more about her as she grows. Look after yourself too. If you are able to do something each week to boost your own wellbeing e.g. going for a run, a walk, a coffee with a friend, then that's great. Help your partner to do this too so that you are both looking after each other. Parenting is a marathon journey, but a wonderful one!
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