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Why is it said that to a child, a grown-up can look super strong and almost a giant like? Or that they can even come off as intimidating even when they’re being very nice and they just do something like stand next to them, or pick them up? I don’t think I’m that big, or scary. is this just a myth?
It's not a myth—it's all about perspective and development. To a child, especially a younger one, adults are naturally much larger and stronger. Their brains are still developing, so their sense of scale and proportion is different from ours. What feels like a simple gesture to you, like standing close or picking them up, might feel huge and overwhelming to them.
Additionally, kids are highly sensitive to non-verbal cues, like tone of voice or body language. Even if you're being nice, your size combined with a deeper voice or sudden movements can feel intense to them. It's not that you're scary—it's just that they're processing the world differently. With time, as they grow and gain confidence, that perception changes.
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