Dad dot info
Free online course for separated parents
Forum - Ask questions. Get answers.
Free online course for separated parents
Clear all

Kids leaving - struggling to come to terms with it

Active Member Registered


I’ll try and get to the point…

I have two kids,boys, 13 and 10. My ex has moved 100 miles away. She’s left the kids with me. The youngest wants to be with his mum, I can understand that. The eldest wants to stay with me. Do I split them up? They both seem to want this but I think in the long run it might not be the best thing for them both, they’re brothers.

It breaks my heart to think of telling my eldest that he needs to move with his brother. I’m struggling with my mental health due to this. Financially I would be worse off if I separated them, this is due to weekly fuel costs rather than fortnightly.

I don’t know how to handle not seeing them regularly as for the past 5 years I’ve had them 50/50.

Any advice would be welcome 



Topic starter Posted : 26/09/2022 11:44 am
Famed Member


I think you should do what you think is in best interests of your life and of the kids. If 1 goes to live with mum, then I think they will miss each other alot, and then you would be doing a lot of running back and forth. those 100 mile journeys would cause a lot of difficulty and disruption to your life.

Posted : 26/09/2022 10:34 pm

Pin It on Pinterest