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Superdad2019
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I have indirect contact with my children via letters and cards.  I have ideas what my children are interested in but am struggling as to where to start as I don't want to be too over the top with them, just show I am interested and care for them.

My kids are 6 and 10.

Can anybody in a similar position give me any starters please?

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Topic starter Posted : 24/09/2021 8:15 pm
Daddyup
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Hi there

I remember another dad suggesting that one way to consider is to have some structure with some normality that the kids can replicate too and makes it easier for them to read and follow.. 

You letter

Asking the kids how they are

Tell them how you are

Ask the kids what they have been upto

Tell them what you have been upto since you last wrote

Talk about something current and topical (if you are engaging with their schools then ask how they are enjoying certain activities or events or subjects, can get details off twitter or their website) 

Finish off with a poem or motivational quote and a reminder of when you will write to them again (and if they are writing to you remind them to write to you)

If allowed, do a drawing/picture/painting/arts n crafts (buttons, crepe paper etc) of you and what you have been doing, or maybe add a photo of you in a different location each time with a message and date/time on the back...

 

Just my thoughts, hope this helps... 

 

All the best. 

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Posted : 24/09/2021 10:46 pm
Superdad2019
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@Daddyup thanks for that. As it's the first one I just wanted to ensure that I didn't make them feel upset or think they're missing out on things and be accused of manipulation.

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Topic starter Posted : 25/09/2021 10:03 pm
Daddyup
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It's a fair concern to have.

So important to avoid saying things like don't you miss me, do you want to see daddy, tell mummy to let you see me, I want to see you bit mummy doesn't let me, or anything adult or court related..

 

Keep it child focused and relevant..

 

That would be the best way to avoid writing anything you shouldn't.. Same goes for any pictures too..

 

All the best.. 

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Posted : 26/09/2021 3:22 pm
actd
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I agree with the above - do not mention the situation any of you are in, it's about showing you are interested in the minor things. And don't ask everything at once, just a couple of things, and you can ask about other stuff in the future, so it keeps things going.

And keep copies of everything you send - in future years, you'll be able to look back through them with your kids.

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Posted : 28/09/2021 5:06 pm
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