My partner of 11 years and my daughter who is 8 has just left me and set up in a 2 bedroom apartment with rent in the region of £700 a month and she has contributed jackshit to the running of the house the joint mortgage or anything in 6 years but I think the other man will be paying that. I have offered to pay maintenance of £300 a month and pay school meals which can be £50 a month. But because she thinks she should live well and she has taken advice she is demanding £500 a month off me and I have my daughter twice a week and said I would just go the cms as I would be better off. When I do the figures on the CMS calculator I should be paying £317 is they anyway she can force me to pay this extra money. Also iam left paying the joint mortgage and I have had to put the house is up for sale. I basically can't afford to pay the £500 a month but can she make money.
Yes, you’d be better off starting the CMS claim yourself as you have more control over it then. You only need to pay what the CMS say, nothing more.
You also mention about paying joint debt ( mortgage etc ) you could ask for a variation as I’m almost certain that joint debts are taken into account and can reduce your maintenance contributions if your ex isn’t helping to contribute towards the payments in anyway. Worth asking anyway. Worst case is it’ll be £317 like you calculated.
feel for you Red6, my partner did the same thing 10 years ago, the whole calculation system with the CMS is completely rotten to the core
you need to be very careful, I was seeing my son every other weekend, holidays etc, then suddenly on the ex email, he doesn't want to see me anymore, that day, the ex puts in a call to the CMS, shared care has changed and I am having to pay an extra £100 per month, on top of the £540, your ex can easily use the system to stop you seeing your child and pocket the extra
I was the same, the mortgage was in joint names, she left and set up with the most wonderful man in the world, loves my son, better parent that me etc, it lasted 8 weeks, but I was left for almost a year, in a 4 bedroom house, paying all the mortgage that was in joint names
More important, if you get a car allowance, she will get her percentage of this, but with the company car, she will get her percentage of the benefit in kind, so say £6K car allowance, you take the company car, so see none of the cash and say £10K BIK for the car, she will get her percentage of £16K, as the CMS treat as income, crazy I know, for money you never see
As iam new at this I was wondering what benefits she would be entitled to as she only works part-time and earns about £1200 gross a month. But she has a mortgage on her own house which she rents out. Will her earnings have any affect on what I contribute. Sorry for all the questions. Thanks