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This is a bit complicated. Split 5 years ago, have done true 50/50 from day one. I've always paid maintenance to the mother to ensure my child was not going without, even though I wasn't legally obliged to. On top of that I pay school trips, uniform, clothes etc.
Here's where it gets complicated, childs mother has mental health issues and because of a serious incident child now lives with me full time.
I am considering stopping payments but obviously don't want to cause financial distress to the mother. I have changed my working hours, I used to do shifts, to enable me to have child full time. This has meant a pay decrease so things are going to be very tight.
I suppose my question is how do I stop paying the mother for a child that has no overnights with her ( and won't for the foreseeable) without coming away as the villain?........ I'm always the villain and she's always the victim, but I don't want to add to her issues.
Thanks for your time.
hi,
you would need to get child benefit transferred over to you. Then CMS will class you as main carer and in theory your case gets closed.
the problem is your ex will need to report change to child benefit office. if she doesn't, then it gets messy and you may need to seek a child arrangements order to satisfy CMS.
if your paying as private arrangement, mucb easier to stop payments.
info: https://www.gov.uk/child-benefit/make-a-change-to-your-claim
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