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Here's my situation.
Myself and my partner both had a previous relationship that included having kids.
I have 2 kids with my ex, 2 boys, 1 who is now over 16 and left school. I paid maintenance for them both quite happily with an agreement with my ex...until she got greedy and got the CSA involved to see if she could get more money. They decided she was entitled to more, I paid it no problem since it was for my kids anyway. Like I said though, only paying for 1 now as 1 has gone off on his own.
My partner has 4 kids with her ex. All under 16. He is on incapacity benefit so pays nothing for them via CSA. These kids all stay with us (mine stay with their mum). The arrangement with my partners ex was we would pay for everything, school clothes, dinners, shoes, jackets, you know the stuff they need 🙂 Holidays also, we are just back from a week away with them all 😉 They stay with us all the time except for every second weekend and a few weeks during the school holidays where they stay with their dad. He pays for nothing for them, which we are okay with as it means less hassle as he is not the most forthcoming individual.
Question is this (at last they all say lol)...
While they are on holiday at their dads house we get constant demands for money from him. It starts from when he knows he is taking them during the holidays until they come back to us. He needs electric, he needs petrol, he needs this or that. It's almost like because we are both working he expects handouts from us, if we say he doesn't have a right to it, he threatens to not see the kids.
Does he actually have a right to demand money from us while he has his kids?
Cheers for any replies 🙂
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