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Hi every body, I need some advice as to what best to do. I have been paying maintenance voluntarily for 7 years, up until I missed one payment when it was delayed by a few days and suddenly a claim was made for maintenance and endless phone calls from CSA.
I am happily married with 2 step children and the CSA still require me to pay the same amount as I was paying when I was single. Is there any way I can have payments going into a savings account instead of being wasted by his mother, obviously I don't want to begrudge my son of food, water or clothing but I have not seen substantial evidence the money has actually been spent on him.
Hi There,
Once the CSA are involved then there isn't any real way to not have them involved unless your ex agrees.
You shouldn't be paying the same as you were when you were single (unless the change is due to pay increase) if you are paid the same, you should be paying less due to the 2 step children living with you.
Have you looked at the CSA calculator to see what it says you should pay?
GTTS
There is no way to pay the maintenance into a savings account instead of to the mother I'm afraid.
There's a sticky at the top of this section concerning how the CSA calculate payments, have a read through, you might find something that will help...I'm sure that you are entitled to a reduction when you have children living with you too.