After 2 years of battling and just over 12 months ago signing a legal agreement for shared custody for my daughter, myself and my daughters mother have a decent relationship as parents... A few weeks ago, she confided in me that she was having money issues and had considered in a "moment of madness" turning to prostitution, we talked and I agreed to help her further financially and take some of the burden off. Yesterday I began thinking something isn't right and came across a profile of her offering services for money for both (incalls and outcalls) meaning strangers in her house whilst my daughter is there... Now I am at a point of considering removing my daughter from her care immediately, but unsure how to go about this? If I involve social services etc or report her then I am unsure what could happen to her 2 other children she has from a previous relationship as they have no contact with their father etc.
This behaviour is completely out of character and despite our many disagreements, I have always believed in her as a mother... I am at a loss of what to do for the best here! Any advice would be welcomed.
Hi there
As she’s already confided in you about prostitution, I would talk to her about what you've discovered and see what her reaction is.
Remind her that having strange men coming to hers for [censored] is unacceptable with children in the house, and that you will act very quickly and remove your child without further discussion if it doesn’t stop immediately.
You could also speak to Social Services, i don’t think it’s automatic that they would remove the children, although it’s likely that they would be put on protection. Most prostitutes also have drink and drug problems and it’s this added risk that is likely to motivate the removal of any children.
As mojo says, there is no guarantee that the courts would award you custody, so it may be a matter of coming to an agreement if she is intent on following that path. I would suggest that she agrees to regular drug tests and also that she only conducts her business when your daughter is staying with you, She has to consider what sort of role model she is being if your daughter sees what she is doing.