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I'm going through a divorce action against me in, Minneapolis, USA. We have a 3 year old child born in Scotland. She left the Isle of Skye to return to her beloved prairies; in spite of my disapproval in April 2011. I followed like a lapdog 6 weeks later.
By April 2012 I had had enough; especially as she would not allow my son to come over to Scotland to see his relatives. One big Uncle who loved him has since died.
While over there I was the 24 hour a day babysitter while mama flew airplanes. Now she wants exclusive rights and full custody. My attorney over there says it is worth flying over for mediation (their term for agreement over separation. My dear wife has so far said no to any compromise.
So my question - stupid as it sounds - is it worth going over. Finances are limited; so are hers she gets paid £15000 pa for flying a 76 seat aircraft for Compass Airlines on behalf of Delta. Yes, you get paid more in Tesco's!
Any advice appreciated, Bryan
Hi Bryan59,
I'm not sure that I'm going to be any help but I can share my thoughts...
- I assume that any court would like to see attempts at mediation before approaching court
- I wonder whether a court might take a slightly negative view if mediation was not attempted, eg allowing the other party to evidence "... and they refused to take part in mediation..."
From reading your post I am unclear what your hoped outcome would be.
I wonder whether you have identified any sources of support for Dad's in USA - they would be familiar with the system and potential / likely outcomes (I guess there would be some and they would support you with experience of going throught the system in USA). You have an attorney so I guess you have them to give you guidance and opinion.
Just a stab in the dark... I wonder how many mediation meetings it takes (and I guess each meeting is a couple of weeks apart). So I wonder whether mediation is a one off event, or a process spread across several visits etc. If you attend one mediation meeting are you able to committ to all of them...
I hope things work out okay for you and your son.
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