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Hi im in a really bad situation.I have been married for two years and have a four year old boy with my wife.She also has a twelve year old son from a former partner.
About a month ago i found her older son sexually assulting my four year old.After much thought we decided to call social services for help.They made us call the police and they interviewed the older boy.As yet they are still deciding wether to charge him or caution him.This has put a great strain on our relationship and has resulted in us splitting up.I made it clear to her that i would be keeping my son and that she would move out with her older son.She seemed to accept this but it has become apperent she never had any intention to leave without both boys.As she new there would be little chance of her getting custody. She thought by getting rid of me she would get automatic custody.she had me arrested on false charges of assult.I was supposed to have strangled her and thrown her down stairs yet there was not a mark on her.During my arrest
sheleft the house with both boys and all my personel things such as passport credit cards etc.I have not seen my son for a week now and i am really upset. I have a solicitor on the case but its gonna cost thousands.Does anyone have a similar experience or no what the custody outcome maybe in a case like this. Thanks for reading.Oh and i was released without charge.
Hi Brian,
What can I say mate ? You have really gone through it over the last month or so, I can't imagine how you are feeling.
You must be very worried about your son and really missing him. I feel for you. I'm sure the rest of the DadTalk community will give you advice however I will pass this on to our legal partners at the Children's Legal Centre to get a response from them.
Hang in there.
Gooner
[censored], that's appalling. I would suggest you ring the Children's Legal Centre for quick advice on this. My thoughts are that you need an emergency order for the safety of your son. Also, can you get anything in writing from the police to the effect that they believe that your wife made a false accusation against you - I think that would help your case in court.
The bad news is that it may well cost you thousands - I spent tens of thousands to get custody and the right contact arrangements for my daughters. If I had my time again, I'd do exactly the same - you could never live with yourself if you didn't do everything possible and something happened.
I cannot see how a court could do anything but give you custody over your son as he is in considerable danger if he is left with your wife and her son.
In all fairness if she is the mother she can do what she wants to as long as she is on the birth cert. Have her arrested for child kidnap as well as sexual assault For the oldest child and report it to the school/pre school. It isn't fair. But in the end, your child will start asking questions.
Also if the son whom assaulted your son. She should go anywhere until investigation is completed.
The post you are replying to is over 4 years old, so hopefully it's sorted by now :whistle:
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