Just been granted contact with my son he now 4 years old not seen him since he was a baby because mother denied me contact.
Problem is she will not communicate with me. Who should tell him i am is dad ? i dont think she will, also do you think he should be told the first time i see him. I dont want to confuse him or upset him.
It does not have to be suppervised contact but it is at a contact centre untill he gets to know me.
Wow that's great news. It would be nice if you ex explained who you were before you meet him.
A contact centre could be a great place for the two of you to spend time at first. Are you allowed to pick the centre? If so, see if you can find one that you feel is a nice relaxed environment for the two of you to get to know each other. Arrange to go and see the facilities at a few beforehand if possible, get them to explain what they can can do to help the two of you. If not then still go to see them ahead of time, I'm sure they will be willing to talk to you and offer some advice.
It sounds like your a little nervous about meeting up? What are you most concerned about?
Keep talking.
Gooner.
yes i am nervous and think my son might sense it, and also i might get upset
Might be worth telling him you are nervous and excited just like him. 🙂
Might also be worth asking the contact centre for advice.