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(@mkelk058)
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Hello everyone,

I am new here and I wanted to share my story to get the opinions of males. So far, all of the people who have been involved in my affairs have been women. I do love women as much as the other guy, but unfortunately all of the ones in my life have turned out to be pretty evil.
This is a long story and please excuse any typos. I am typing this out from my iPhone which has a mind of its own at times. It like to add words that don't make any sense.

I want to start this off that I feel like a fool for not listening to my gut about this woman, but it is what it is. After numerous of failed relationships, I thought that getting into a relationship to start a family with someone from my home town and went to high school with was the right answer. Even after warnings from her sister about this individual, I chose to give her the benefit of the doubt and move forward. Huge mistake. After being together for only a year (again I thought our background would create a tight bound) we decided to move forward with starting a family. On a positive note , my daughter was not an accident. Right away after the birth I saw signs of trouble. She refused to have my name placed on the birth cert due to an argument that took place and she states I have anger issues. Her and I got into a huge argument when she refused to get induced although this was the Drs recommendation due to high blood pressure. It was to the point where her and the baby's health was at risk. One minute she would say she was going to get induced, the next she wasn't. I had to go back and forth with work telling them I was taking paternity leave one minute then not the next. After the argument she finally agreed. So we went through everything, the baby was born, she gave her my last name but refused to put my name on the BC or even apply for a BC. After numerous arguments it was obvious that she did this so I would not have the ability to stop her from leaving me if she wanted to. After trying to make her happy for a full year, turning every argument into my fault just so we could have peace in the house, I finally had enough and told her we needed to separate. During the time of her moving out, she refused to work with me at all with belongings, called the cops on me 4 times (one time she reported me as a felon with firearms to have me arrested, but that didn't go as planned since I'm not a felon), has managed to destroy my relationships with her family and my family (I'm really not close to my father due to him being a drunk), and has left me with all the bills. I need to add that I quit my job in WI and we relocated to FL. I am still unemployed, but hopefully will find a roommate and job her soon.

Now that you know the story ( there is more to it like her telling people I pushed her when she was 9 months preg which is a lie), I would like your opinion on how I am going to handle the situation. I did get a paternity test so I know I am the father. Once I get back to work, I plan on paying support even if it's not requested. Due to all of the terrible things that were done to me, I would really like to step out of my daughters/ex's lives. If my daughter comes looking for me in the future I will greet her with open arms, but being from a broken family myself, I feel that if one parent was out of the picture all of the fighting and constantly being torn about who I want to live with won't be there for her. Any thoughts???

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Topic starter Posted : 29/12/2013 6:55 pm
 actd
(@actd)
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Hi and welcome

One big problem with any advice is that we are based in the UK, and the vast majority of our members and expertise in in the UK system, so we can't advise on the legalities within the USA, and that also means that we can't reliably inform you on things like getting your name on the birth certificate. Are there any fathers groups where you are? If so, they may be able to give more advice on how best to proceed.

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Posted : 01/01/2014 11:40 pm
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