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[Solved] Secondary School

 
BooBoo2010
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I found out from my children that the ex had taken the to a Secondary school in the ex's area - over 20 miles away! Both were asked about whether they would like to go there. ex has been working on them for a few years now, as ex is of the opinion that our children will be better off with them. Our children have currently been at their current school/s ever since the days they started. Their home, doctor,dentist,opticians, school, friend and family are all where they currently live. Does ex have any right to do what they did, and do they have any chance of completely uprooting them like this?

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Topic starter Posted : 21/09/2015 3:03 pm
Mojo
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...this is dreadful! I would be tempted to contact the secondary school and tell them in no uncertain terms that there will be no change of residence for your children and the father has no right to confuse the children in this way.

We're the children upset when they relayed this information to you?

He has an order for contact, does the order state that the children reside with you? If this is the case then he wouldn't be able to remove them from your care without a further order allowing this.

How old are the children now? If they are distressed I would certainly get your GP involved and talk to the head at school. Request some pastoral care for them so that they can talk about how they are feeling.

I would also start considering suspending contact and applying for PSO to prevent him from removing them and citing emotional abuse that has been ongoing.

From reading your previous posts I know how hard this is for you, your experiences of court haven't been easy and it sounds lime you are dealing with a pair of narcissists, which just makes everything a hundred times worse.

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Posted : 21/09/2015 4:16 pm
BooBoo2010
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Thank you Mojo, what is a PSO? We have an order where the children reside with me 60% of the time and with him alt wkends, one midwk overnight and half the hols. I will inbox you something else too.

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Topic starter Posted : 21/09/2015 4:21 pm
Mojo
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That sounds like a shared residence order.

A PSO is a Prohibited Steps Order.

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Posted : 21/09/2015 4:31 pm
BooBoo2010
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Would shared residence make a difference in applying for PSO?

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Topic starter Posted : 21/09/2015 4:34 pm
Mojo
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...it shouldn't , but I'll check on that.

Does the order state that the children reside with you and have contact with him on such and such, or does it say they reside with you on xxxx and reside with him on xxxx?

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Posted : 21/09/2015 4:46 pm
BooBoo2010
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It states they reside with him alt wkens, one mid wk overnight and half the hols. The rest of the time they reside with me

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Topic starter Posted : 21/09/2015 5:14 pm
Mojo
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As I thought, that sounds like a shared residence order.

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Posted : 21/09/2015 6:03 pm
Mojo
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It might help to give Coram a call and talk to them about the best way to deal with this, either by PSO or SIO. Here's their helpline number, they can be very busy so it might take a little patience to get through.

0300 330 5480

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Posted : 21/09/2015 6:41 pm
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