Hi all,
New to the forum, as need some help and support.
My partner and I have just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant and is looking healthy. We are both over the moon. Unfortunately she had 3 previous miscarries all at week 6, so tensions are high at this time, as she says she is expecting and preparing to miscarry again. We have a heartbeat and told it is looking good so far.
2 weeks ago she said she didn’t want to be with me but changed her mind again. That happened twice, but now says she wants to be with me.
Now tonight she has said she doesn’t feel the same about me and doesn’t know if those feelings will come back and she isn’t in love with me. Then texts me saying “night night love you xxx”. My head is all over the place.
I keep reading that this Is the hormones. Hopefully you can understand my situation from what I have written 😆
Can anyone shed some light??
Thank you.
hi, her hormones are potentially all over the place at the moment, and she also may not have her head straight about the pregnancy until she's more certain that she's going full term. You need to be patient and supportive, and it might be worth speaking to your GP.
Hi Henderz, How are things now for you both? I would agree with actd, changes in hormones do play a huge part in early pregnancy, but so can anxiety, feeling overwhelmed and just plain scared. Especially if you and your partner have been through three previous miscarriages. Keep communicating with each other, reassure your partner as much as you can. Encourage her to keep talking to her midwife about her concerns and feelings. Is there any way you could both receive some counselling together to perhaps help you talk things through, and to help you with the loss of your other three babies? There are some great charities out there. Here's the names of a couple that may be able to help. www.sands.org, www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk. I hope that your pregnancy is going well though! and that you and your partner can look forward to becoming a family. Wishing you all the best. Fegans Parent Support Volunteer
Hi there,
Many thanks for your reply. We are both much better now and pregnancy is looking good. After a good chat the miscarriages put a strain on the relationship and the thought of it happening again. But things are much better now. Thanks again.
Hello Henderz,
That's great to hear! Take one day at a time and don't be afraid to come back to the forum, or to seek counsel from someone. Wishing you all the best,
Fegans PSV