Hi guys, need some help, been with my partner 2 months now and found out she is about 4 weeks pregnant, Needless to say we were both very happy when we found out, it's her 5th child and my first, the problem I'm having is her moods and the way she is with me, I'm no prude I don't expect happiness and rainbows all the time, she is now mad at me and hasn't spoken to me in a few days because I confided in my best friend with our great news and I told her I had spoken with him, I can understand at her being mad because of this but she has spoken to people about it and I felt like I needed to talk to someone about it too (I know it's probably to early to tell anyone) I've tried flowers and chocolates and soppy little messages to try and get her to talk to me nothing has worked, might be worth mentioning our relationship began very quickly spent alot of time together at the start and both of us have spoken about genuine feelings for each other. my main questions are do the moods improve and how can I help with them and or do I just stand back and take it?
Hi there, congratulations!
Don't worry about it too much, it's perfectly normal for hormones to be all over the place and it sounds like you're doing all the right things. She might just need a little bit of space for now. It's got to be difficult for all of you at the minute, it's such a lot to cope with while you're still in the early stages of your relationship and just getting to know one another.
Have a look at our expecting section too, might be some good info for you there.
Good luck and keep posting, we will try and support you.
There is something else which could be having a bad effect too and that's that I am going away for 4 days to the Mediterranean on a stag do this coming week this could also be dealing a blow to the moods, I've tried to speak to her and reassure her that while I'm away I will not be cheating on her yes I know everyman says this but I really am very happy with this woman and I don't and wouldn't see a point in goin out for a burger when you have steak at home, beginning to think maybe I'm best not talking at all
You could ring her often while you are away, but unfortunately, her mind may be wondering what you are up to.
Would love to be able to do that but I'm beginning to think that I need to leave her to herself for a wee while
Lets hope distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Her hormones will be all over the place and perhaps she has worries that she hasn't talked to you about yet, you've only been together a couple of months and are still learning about each other.
Lots has happened in a short space of time and now the initial euphoria is fading, reality is probably settling in, four children are hard work and now there's another on the way!
It might be that a few days away will help the situation.
All the best