Hi All
Last night my partner decided to hand my new born over to me asking me to give him a feed. However about an hour later she woke up in a panic and started to accuse me of taking the baby from her thinking that I was keeping him away from her (which is not the case).
She apparently can't remember anything from last night as she was exhausted from staying up the night before. Just wondering if anyone else has had this with their partners and how did you overcome this. Currently its very tense between myself and her so any advice would be grand!
Thanks
Hello,
I would treat this "episode" as a one off for the time being and not put too much emphasis on it.
A new baby can make parents very stressed, they question themselves, thinking "has baby had enough food," "is he/she still breathing," "did I do that right"? This is quite normal.
I think you supply the answer to your question when you say, quote, "she was exhausted from staying up the night before." In my opinion it sounds as though she was fatigued, went to sleep with lots of things on her mind regarding the baby, woke in a panic, was disorientated and in light of that spoke to you in the manner she did.
Please do not be too upset about it and make an issue of it with your partner. It is most likely a one off which will never happen again.
What I will say is that it is of paramount importance to work happily together and for you BOTH to GET AS MUCH SLEEP AS YOU CAN. Lack of sleep provides fertile ground for allowing small issues and disagreements to creep in causing disharmony between couples.
Hi There,
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I agree with the above, if this is an isolated insident, then try and let it go, I'm sure you are being supportive towards her and doing that anyway.
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Maybe try and take baby from mum when ever you can to allow her some time to herself (and you some time bonding too :cheer: )
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If this is something that continues and she doesn't want baby out of site or is being very out of character, then it could be something else, post natal depression is now quite common, don't jump ahead though, just be patient and supportive of your partner while she adjusts to being a mum, it's tough for you both with lack of sleep ect, but be there for her and be understanding.
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GTTS