Hi there.. im going through some messed up [censored] atm..
I met a girl and we clicked instantly.. she got preg after 3 months of being together.. and it felt right. I was renting at the time 1 bedroom shared house.. i asked her to move in.. we then moved to a flat for the baby and all that. Had a baby boy. Wen she was preg i wanted her to be my wife if we was going to have a baby everything was perfect and seemed so right we got married after 3 years. I gave her the perfect wedding.. my parents are able to help us buy our first home so we ended up buying our 1st home and a married couple with a baby..
So just before the wedding she started working to help pay for things in a cocktail bar. 4 months after the wedding she went into was acting abit distant she was working alot mostly nights.. as i worked during the day and had to look after my son. I would drop her off and pick her up every day from work be in 3am.. because i loved her and would do anything for her. So she became distant.. nd noticed a change.. life was good and getting on.. one day something happened at work with some blokes who said something about her havung [censored] with one of the punters.. she he then defended her.. so one day she said to me i dont want to be with u i want to be single.. and said shes moving away to newcastle i live just north of m25 in luton. So 1 week she packed her stuff and left while i was at work. Now she was on anti dep on and off since she gave birth to my son.. and was on them at this time after amost a year being off them.
Shes now up there with one of the blokes she met at work the one a punter said she has slept with.. so i knew something was going on 3 weeks down the line she still tells me nothing has happened. This weekend i went up to see for myself i went up friday night and told her i was there on saturday.. he van was outside i got a glimps of them on the sofa cuddling like we used to. And bare in mind she ha told me the guy was not there and works away.. he is 40+ years old and already has a kid from previous divorce.. and she is 24..no i have seen what is going on via her emails on her old phone she left behind.. large food orders sexy underware.. and then i saw one for a pregnancy test.. and this had me thinking we hadnt has [censored] in about 1 month atleast.. so 100% its not mine. So she must be preg and also done stuff.. while telling me sges done nothing and im crazy. Also she then is looking after my son... so im worried for him because i dont know this guy and shes only known him for less than a month.. so in the space of 1 week i have lost everything. I wife and also my child..
I need some advice of what to say to her and what to do.. im finding it so hard to not be angry and 1million other emotions..all i think about is my son.. i have so much anger towards her because i know me than she thinks i know also from her friend at work that have seen them messing after after hours.. i hate her for doing this.. i feel sorry for my son the most as he must be so confused.. and i can tell that he is not happy where he is.. not with his dad.. now i could go for custody and win.. ad i have a job a hone and family for support. She has no family no job. No home nothing. But i dont want my son to go through it.. she has cheated on me and tried to get away with it by saying one day im single now.. ur nothing to do with ny life.. .. this is making ne do things and im truing into someone im not..
I need help.
I think at this point, you could go to court to get an emergency order as she has taken your son so far away without agreement. I cannot guarantee what decision a court would give, but at least you can get something rolling for you and your son. You would fill out a C100 and attend your local court in person - after that, it will be up to court if the hearings remain locally or move to where the mother has gone.
Try to be kind to yourself, talk to a friend and get some support around you - you must need that right now. Wishing you the best of luck.
I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling, Yoda has given you some good advice, you can apply for an emergency order and ask the court for your child to be returned. They will check everything and if it is better for the child to be returned, they can order that this happen.
You mentioned that you have family around you for support, turn to them to help you through this. Try and keep communication open with the mother, although you have reason to be angry, try not to show it, keep your conversation about your child, its natural that you will be worried about him and she should understand that he will be missing you too.
If you're finding things too hard to,cope with, you can go and see your GP and ask for some help.
All the best