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Kirkyfosh
(@Kirkyfosh)
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Hi all not entirely sure if this is the right category

My daughter, 13 in less then a month, has requested to live with myself. She has been feeling more and more alienated living with mum and her boyfriend and their 2 yr old son (my daughters step brother) she is currently going through some mental anguish in regards to her identity and her mum just shouted "so your a Lesbian then?" And she has not dared to talk to her again about it

She is extremely unhappy and this is not the first time she has asked to live with me.

I'm stuck as I can only look to social housing for an appropriate property I could live with her in but I'm also disabled, I'm now stuck worry how I can help my daughter but also try to get a property she can live with me that can also accommodate my disability.

If I'm honest I don't know what to do, where to start I'm at a complete loss and seeing daughter so unhappy is ripping me to bits

Sorry this is wordy but trying anywhere I can for advice and help

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Topic starter Posted : 23/07/2019 3:52 am
Kirkyfosh
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And have now had the honour of my ex stating that our daughter will live with me "over my dead body" and that I am a liar and a "bad person" although no specifics as to what is so bad about me.

I honestly have so much going on in terms of my health that this is all starting to send me back into depression (I fought my way out a year ago) it feels like I'm back to square one

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Topic starter Posted : 23/07/2019 12:12 pm
actd
 actd
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If you were to go to court, at age 13 a court will take a lot of notice of her wishes, so what your ex wants isn't the deciding factor. I would speak to your local council or housing association to see what they can do with respect to housing.

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Posted : 24/07/2019 1:54 am
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Mojo
 Mojo
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Hi there

I’m not sure how a court application would pan out, taking into consideration your health issues and current lack of appropriate accommodation, and the fact that courts don’t like to split siblings up.

It’s so sad that your daughter can’t turn to her mother... perhaps you could speak to her school and ask if they could offer her some extra support?

Would the mother consider a 50/50 agreement, where your daughter stays with you 1 week and the ex the next.

It might benefit your daughter to speak to someone in confidence, here’s a link to the National Youth Advisory Service, they have a helpline, if your daughter needed someone to talk to about what’s upsetting her.

www.nyas.net

All the best

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Posted : 24/07/2019 2:12 am
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