Does anyone else have an ex who seems to collect their children's uniforms and everyday clothes? My ex does keeps hold of my children's uniforms for weeks, months even. Eventually returning them when they have grown out of them, or the school writes to him to tell him to bring them back. If he thinks they are too small- based on the age size irrespective of whether they fit our children he throws them in the bin. I do not know how many sets of uniforms I have had to replace, school has chipped in when I was hard up and my parents have bought more too. My son came home after a non uniform day having spent the previous night at his fathers, with jeans from home that clearly did not fit him and a top he got last Christmas from home. When I ask him for them back, he makes out that I keep 'his uniforms'! and that I have several of his, which I have not. He has 'his' uniforms and 'his' everyday clothes at his house. He even asked my daughter to take clothes from home to his house so she could come back in them on christmas day!!! Any advice v welcome.
This situation is always problematic and there are no solutions really. The children have to wear a uniform and he picks them up from school on his days, I can't think of anything you can do to stop him from playing his games ...at the expense of the children unfortunately.
When you can, outside of schooldays, keep their good clothes and send them to him with clothes that you can live without if he keeps them. My son would buy cheap outfits from Primark or Asda, even bundles from Ebay that were so cheap and of course secondhand shops are another good source.
Thanks Mojo I have been doing that too, just fed up of of his pathetic games :/
You could speak to the school to see if they can provide him with a locker to keep uniform in - he can change into the uniform when he gets to school and out of it when he's being picked up by his father, and you clean it on days when he's with you.