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Hi All,
Just wondered what chores all of you get your children to do?
My son is 8 and my daughter is 6.
In my opinion they are lazy. I often use the line with them 'this house is not a hotel!'
While I believe my children are kind and good natured and I adore them, they are lazy lazy!!!
My daughter has just expressed an interest in helping me wash the pots and my son asked if he can wash the clothes for us.
I watched last night on iplayer the worlds strickest parents and realised that my children are (heres that word again) lazy 🙁
Im not sure how you balance a chore and something being fun, at the minute while they are asking to do pots and clothes, I know I should encourage this, I asked them this morning if they would like to make their own reward charts with me this evening, which they loved that idea.
But Im not sure what are realistic chores for a 6 and 8 year old to do.
I havent asked my partner about this yet as I want to show Im interested and thinking about our children and their future and preparing them for live as teenages and then as adults, thought it would show her something if I tried to sort this out myself.
Any advise or words of wisdom? 🙂
Your kids aren't lazy - they are just normal, in my opinion. I don't think that programs like worlds strictest parents are a representative view (if they were, they wouldn't be on TV).
Do you give them pocket money? If so, you could get them to do small jobs in return. One thing we do at home is to have a rota chart for emptying & loading the dishwasher (a job that no-one likes) - adults are on it too - that way everyone can see that they are all doing a fair share.
We give our boys pocket money and for that they have to do some jobs
One will empty dishwasher
One will load it after tea and put it on
They clean the rabbits out every week
They feed the cats
They tidy their bedrooms
They put the bins out every week
They practise guitar and drums every night
Also if they want some extra money to buy things then they can earn it by doing other jobs.
We have done this for a few years and it makes them realise that they can save, and earn. It is upto them.
Don't call them lazy - but encourage them to help around the house and the jobs may be small at first (and you will have to nag them!). When they want something tell them they can earn it.
Good luck with it
We give our boys pocket money and for that they have to do some jobs
....They practise guitar and drums every night
I'd pay them not to do this 😆
We are just getting into pocket money for chores!
My kids are 5 and 6 so we are looking at breaking them in gently! We think we will give them 2 tasks a week ie one lays the table each night the other takes the plates out at the end. They both have to fold their PJ's up each morning (fed up picking them up from around the house!).
As I say we'll start with those and see how we get on! I'm sure I'll keep you posted on how things work out! 😆
I'd pay them not to do this 😆
Apparently if they get to a certain level or grade then they can use it on their university application - and with the current A level results they need any advantage they can get!
Therefore I can cope with the noise even if the neighbours hate us!!!
Mind you hearing my son play "chasing cars" by snow patrol or the intro to "sweet child o' mine" by Guns n Roses does make me tingle!
I was just thinking about this the other day, My son is 5 and gets £5 a week to spend at the car boot.
I was thinking that i would make a list of jobs he could do to increase his pocket money or maybe to encourage him in doing things more for himself, like said in a previous post picking up PJ's etc... and this would be noted on a star chart also to increase his pocket money.
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