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[Solved] What age can a child make their own choices ?

 
Al
 Al
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Hello there,

I am new to this as I recently split with my wife in March and moved out in June this year !

My wife is currently trying to stop my son from staying over more than one night a week, whereas he previously enjoyed staying 2-3 nights a week at his discretion. This is down to my financial circumstances being unable to provide maintenance since July, shortly after moving out and in essence, she is using him to try and hold me to ransom over the financial situation !

My question is this though,.....How old can a child be in Scotland, where they are considered to be able to make their own decisions as to who they stay with and when ?

I would value any info.

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Topic starter Posted : 08/10/2014 3:54 pm
DaveR
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As I understand it is 12 years old although maybe they would consider the childs wishes and feelings slightly earlier if they are mature.

Regards,

Dave

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Posted : 08/10/2014 4:05 pm
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Al
 Al
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Is that for Scotland Dave do you know ? 8)

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Topic starter Posted : 08/10/2014 4:18 pm
DaveR
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Not sure if Im honest

Dave

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Posted : 08/10/2014 4:49 pm
Nannyjane
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Hi Al

As you were married to the mother you have Parental Responsibility for your son, this gives both parents rights. It would be very difficult for him to assert any authority with his mother at 12 though and if she won't let him then there's not a lot he as a 12 year old child could do.

You have two options here, you can try mediation to resolve the issue, or you can apply to court for a contact order. At 12 years old your sons wishes and feelings will carry weight.

As you are in Scotland you may be eligible for Legal Aid for a solicitor, as it is still available in Scotland. It will depend upon income, if you are receiving benefits then you will qualify....that goes for mediation costs too.

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Posted : 08/10/2014 4:58 pm
Al
 Al
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Hiya Jane, my son is 16 years of age, I am hoping this should make a difference !?

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Topic starter Posted : 09/10/2014 1:43 am
Nannyjane
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Ah... Well at 16 he can decide who he wants to live with. Mediation and court only really applies to children up to the age of 16.

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Posted : 09/10/2014 1:48 am
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