I split from ex about 5 years ago. We stayed friends as kids were 13 and 10. I took them weekends to my flat. Sometimes ex would go away to see her boy and i looked after kids and dog in her house for few days as she wasnt there. I had a caravan and let her and her boy use it and when they were struggling i gave them money.trouble started when i met a new girl and we had a baby. She lived 70 miles away so i decided to move in when baby was born. My kids were 19 and 16 now so i said i wouldnt look after them in exes house but i would visit them in their town and they could come down and stay in our new house some weekends and ill pay fares. Ex was furious and went to solicitor saying i didnt want to see my kids and demanding i look after my kids for up to a week in her house till she and boy goes on breaks. I said i couldnt as i had young child and kids are 19 and 16. I stood my ground and her solicitors letters stopped. Kids said they wernt coming to visit me in new house but they do now after a few months. I dont speak to ex now. So selfish and wanting her own way. All the money i gave her when struggling forgotten about. How long does she expect me to mind my kids in her house? Till what age? Not happening ever.
Hi There,
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Seems to me she wants to have her cake and eat it, If you have managed to stand your ground and things are working, don't let it bother you, your ex is just trying to pull the strings and maintain some control, but she has lost that as you stood your ground.
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GTTS