Hi All,
I'm new here so I will give you a background. I am a 24 year old father of 2 (2 and 5). Separated from my ex-partner in 2014 and now live with my wife and 2-year-old daughter.
The issue is a huge amount of our finances are devoted to me being able to see my 5 year old son. When my ex-partner left she moved 115 miles away. When my daughter was born my wife was adamant they couldn't share a bedroom, and hence we had to have a 3 bedroomed property at extra expense. +every other weekend (more when I can) I make the 230 mile round trip twice, once to pick him up, and once take him back. On top of this, I am required to pay CSA to my ex. This is a huge burden on our finances and means we struggle to make ends meet for our daughter.
Because of this my wife blames my son, and say that me and my entire family 'favourite' him because we spend the money to see him. This is not the case, but I cannot abandon him purely because my ex moved him away, and If i didn't pay I would never see him.
How can I stop my wife from hating my son so much!!?
Hi There,
I can see how this would cause tension, finances are often the cause of issues and arguments,
Have you been in contact with child maintenance about your travel costs? they do have options for a reduction to cover travel if over a certain distance, though I forget what that is.
I would also check that you are getting the reduction for your daughter who lives with you as that should also be taken into the calculation.
GTTS