Good Evening, I want to be a big part of my sons life. My ex wife is making this very difficult, as she has a new partner.
I have explained the reason why, as I want to pick my son up from school so if he wanted friends to come over I would know his friends parents have that inter action with school other parents etc.... making it easy when I have him if he wanted friends to come around etc.... my question is if I collect him and do not return but keep my wife updated when I will return am I breaking the law ? so if I collect on a sunday take to school on a monaday and collect again and return on a Tuesday am I doing any thing wrong
thanks for your hep
Hi,
I am no expert and could be wrong but if your ex partner has custody then i think you could get into trouble and damage any future access. I think you will be walking on very thin ice. The custodial parent makes all the decisions for the child on a day to day basis and if you want more access she will need to agree with it. The other ways are to try mediation and then the next step would be court. I suggest you dont go down that route.
I hope that helps
Paul
Thank you, she doesn't have custody as nothing as gone through court. does this change thing s ? we have only been split up for 3 months, she is just being very unreasonable at the moment. All I want is a good bond with my son
Hi,
I dont think it necessarily has to go through the courts, if your son lives with the mother and you get a couple of days a week then she will be classed as the custodial parent. Again im no expert and admin can help you out on that more than me, but as far as i know and its unfortunate, the mother usually gets awarded custody.
Never the less, dont jeopardise contact by doing anything silly, by the sounds of things your situation is all up in the air. Just keep what you got and suggest more access in the future, and if nothing comes of it take steps for mediation and court.
Paul
Hi There,
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As you only have an agreement with your ex and nothing through court, you need to be careful and only have the contact that has been agreed between you.
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If you start adding to the contact even if you have kept your ex informed them you are in the realms of the police being called and them possibly coming to collect your son.
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It is hard as said above, but as things are in the early stages and emotions are still raw, I would go with what you currently have and look to increase this over time, if you find that your ex won't increase and gets more difficult then you can attend mediation and then court if needed,
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GTTS