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:dry: Hi. I wonder if you could share your experience to help me understand something.
I'm divorced and have been separated for the last ten years. My children are 13 and 16.
For the last 5 years we've had the same visitation which was agreed between us. Basically this is alternating days at th weekend. One weekend Saturday, one Friday and one day through the week.
I've now had a letter from her solicitor stating that she wants me to change the agreement so I have the children every Saturday.
For multiple reasons that I don't want to waste your time explaining, I don't want to do that. (She doesn't deserve my help.)
That system also works very well for me and my wife.
Can you tell me what, if anything, could be her next move when I reply to the solicitor saying that I am not prepared to do it?
I also do not want to get a solicitor as they recommend and I have written a letter of reply myself. Am I making a rod for my own back not using a solicitor?
Thanks in advance for any help.
Gordon 🙂
I would say that that at this stage, you need to reply politely that the current system works well for you and that circumstances dictate that this is the way you need to continue.
I don't think you need to involve a solicitor, certainly not at this stage, but if you can't sort it out amicably, then the next stage would be mediation. However, I would also look seriously at whether there is any compromise solution you can come to as this will always be the best way forward.
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