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Hello. My ex has recently decided to be as awkward as possible with regard to me seeing my daughter. Am I legally able to bring my daughter to live with me without consulting her mother?
And if not, what is legally in place to stop me from doing this?
Thanken you
Graeme
Hi There,
I am guessing that there is no formal order in place for your daughter and no residency order either, as you haven't mentioned either.
If this is the case there isn't anything stopping you from doing it however I can't stress enough what a bad move it would be to actually do it. your ex would instantly call the police and they would come around and probably remove your daughter, which would cause her a lot of distress. It would also go against you in any court battle you entered into and may even influence a judges decision on the level of contact given as your ex would bring up you were a flight risk and may run of with your daughter and not return her.
I would look into mediation and or court action to resolve the issue formally instead of taking drastic action that in turn would harm the most important thing which is you seeing your daughter and her being able to see you.
GTTS
...I'd just like to add if you go ahead with this course of action then the best thing to do is to telephone the police yourself before taking any action and ask for their position if you were to keep hold of your daughter and not return her to the mother. If you are on the birth certificate and the child was born after December 2003, or you were married then you will have Parental Responsibility, tell the police this and ask them if they would get involved.
Even if the police won't get involved the mother would I'm sure go straight to court for a residence order and your contact might well be curtailed because of this.
That is very interesting and I was thinking this before when my contact was stop start with my son
I called 101 and he asked me what sort of man would do such a thing
[ A MAN WHO CANT STOP LOVING HIS SON AND WILL NEVER GIVE UP ON HIM ]
I tried to explain I just wanted the views of the police and he was not having it, so got no where with him
under what law can a farther refuse to return his son to the mother?
some mothers can put the interests of their children first
but the ones who don't
if they was made to go through what some dads do they would understand what's its like and how it feels
...I'd just like to add if you go ahead with this course of action then the best thing to do is to telephone the police yourself before taking any action and ask for their position if you were to keep hold of your daughter and not return her to the mother. If you are on the birth certificate and the child was born after December 2003, or you were married then you will have Parental Responsibility, tell the police this and ask them if they would get involved.
Even if the police won't get involved the mother would I'm sure go straight to court for a residence order and your contact might well be curtailed because of this.
This is good advice, if you feel you have no other option than to just take your daughter to your home to live, I would still try to work around not having to take this way though.
GTTS
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