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Hi all
Off for the FHDR on weds and just got the Schedule 2 report. Final sentence of which states no further role for CAFCASS
However ex has accused me of kicking her in front of the children and being hostile when I pick the children up. Strange how last Christmas she text me to invite me over for hot chocolate with the kids and earlier this year suggested she come to my house to discuss the children. Glad I bumped both of those invites
I am assembling a lot of texts and emails that show she’s a liar but how much time shall i spend on this aspect? Cafcass basically say they don’t want any more involvement and if we can’t sort at the FHDR we should do statements for a contested hearing.
My ex is happy with me having 3 nights a week term time I just want half the school holidays on top for ease for the kids as they’ll know the routine is straightforward
Thanks in advance
Ps could I take legal action against her claims as they are defamatory?
They may ask you to submit a bundle with evidence. If she makes up any further accusations, just raise your hand and say you have messages/evidence to prove this is made up.
with regards to the defamatory claim, you can do something about it but it will cost you big. It will be a civil matter so nothing to do with the child arrangements. I have looked in to this myself as my ex has done the same, been quoted in the region of £20k to deal with such a case. Not really worth it, as the women have all the power when it comes to the kids, she will just stop you seeing them because of your decision to take her to court.
hi Harry,
its good cafcass are not involved any more. means no safeguarding issues. just a trouble making ex. hope it goes well for you. keep us updated.
Thanks Bill
I’m not surprised at her allegations as she’s relying on the system to fight her corner. The cafcass outcome is good as we had some issues with my son at school which they tried to blame me for but after speaking to me took no further action. Good that cafcass back this up
I have 3 nights a week at the moment and am asking for half the school holidays which just makes more sense and is far easier to arrange.
Cafcass say if we can’t agree at the FHDR to have a contested hearing but can’t really see what difference that will make to be honest except kicking the can down the road a bit more.
The allegations I kicked her are ludicrous. Last Christmas she asked if I wanted to go round to her house for hot choc, In May she offered to come to my house to discuss the kids 1:1 and I’m frequently pulled into her house when I pick the kids up, she’s never asked me not to. These don’t concur with me being dangerous!
In some ways I look forward to Wednesday though know her approach will be to try and discredit me.
Hi Bill
Ex arrived at court for FHDR with her solicitor. About 10 mins before my court hearing solicitor made me the offer of every other weekend and nothing in between. Given I currently have 3 nights a week you can imagine my reaction. Apparently as I don’t pick up from school then they felt I shouldn’t have weekday time as it was just a couple of hours before bed, forgetting i then do school run the following morning.
Anyway they ignored my position statement completely. Her solicitor had drafted a position statement full of comments that are factually incorrect.
Save to say full hearing on 3rd March 2020
I am tempted to reduce my working hours and go for 50:50 as that would deal with all their points about I should have less as I don’t do school pick ups. I guess their response would be that I’m doing that to reduce maintenance and her solicitor already accused me of that today on the current shared care arrangements.
Can I change my share parenting request for the full hearing? It would totally be aimed at dealing with all their concerns and therefore there would be no ability for them to deny this new position
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