Following the short telephone interview with Cafcass I received a copy of the report a couple of days ago.
In the report it is clear that my dear wife has made some completely untrue allegations (subjected her to Domestic Violence, threatened her with a knife etc).
Based on my dear wife's account Cafcass have followed her wishes to heavily restrict access to my son (3rd party supervision for collections, overnight stays etc).
When I looked into the definition of DV, I was stunned to realise that my wife is actually the perpetrator and I am the victim! She is now using the system to protect herself and turn the tables on me and make me look like some monster.
I wrote to Cafcass saying that these allegations are completely untrue and that there were some other significant issues with the report (in my reply I detailed what they were). Their response was that I would have to bring these up with the judge when my case was heard. What!!? It seems that I am already a condemned man and need to prove my innocence in-front of the judge
Is there anything that I can do? This seems to be so stacked in her favour it's untrue.
Thanks in advance.
Tony
Tony
I was in exactly the same boat, my ex even managed to get out a non molestation order, but i thought it at every angle and provided tons of evidence to prove she was lying, such as photos, text messages and even witness statements from people that knew both of us. I recently attended the trial for the non-molestsation order and she didn't even turn up. Order was immediately thrown out. Same with CAFCASS, I recently attended an interview with them and also provided tons of evidence and they were also surprised and I strongly believe they are on my side now. Don't get angry just pile up any evidence you may have and when it comes to your interview USE IT, the aim is to get CAFCASS on your side.
Im sorry to say this but some women think if they claim DV the court will go there way. I am in the same boat has well she is saying DV and i am has well but i have pics and she doesn't the judge has now asked social services ( not CAFCASS) to do a report.
If the judge thinks she is not telling the truth he can go above CAFCASS reports . I believe a CAFCASS report can not be done over the phone ( i could be wrong tho) just need to sit down and think of any evidence you can get that its a lie maybe some witness statements from people that knew both of you,
Surely she will need evidence to back up her allegations? Police reports etc?
Exactly the same for me mate my ex said all sorts to that shower of * Cafcass and they took it all in, I swear I have never even raised my voice to my ex in the 6 years I known her and I have a completely clean record never been in trouble with the Police I work for the [censored] Government for crying out loud and they made me out to be a controlling abusive nut job they believed absolutely every word that came out my ex's mouth all with no evidence what so ever, no texts, phonecalls no police involvement nothing my S2 and S7 slagged me off for england then in the recommendation they said we think Mr Slim should be part of his Daughters life what a load of bollocks.
Now at the end of the day the courts and cafcass stick to the law like glue and every child has the right to both parents in their lives so they will recommend contact whatever is said other than if there is serious risk of harm and it will seem like everything is stacked in your ex's favour but you will notice as the courts go on they will see her for what she is and things will swing in your favour.
Just keep fighting telling the truth build up as much evidence as you can and fight fight fight my man jump through the hoops tick all the boxes do what ever it takes and you'll be fine Cafcass are a bunch of complete ** so peeps have had an easy time with them I havent and the sooner they're off the case the better just don't give then any excuse to get on your back.
Slim 🙂
Thanks all,
I feel a little more reassured. The fact that Cafcass don't seem interested in my version of events and are happy with what the reports findings, even though there is no evidence, is shocking.
The realisation that I have been the victim of DV (not physical abuse, but; verbal, financial, emotional and psychological abuse), for years
still leaves me gob-smacked. I just didn't know that what was happening had a name and is a recognised form of abuse. The difficulty now is that my dear wife has accused me of DV, so now it seems very [censored]-for-tat when I say that she is the abuser and that I am the victim.
I'm gathering what evidence I can (a little difficult now as I have moved out), though the main thing is to get access to my son. We have such a great time together and I know that he misses me as much as I miss him. It's so difficult when he asks when will I come and live with him and mummy again (he's 4 years old).
Tony
