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Dear all,
Its sad to read everyone's tales, and its sad to be in the middle of one right now. Last weekend as I was pouring over plans of a house that our family might build, it was obviously the trigger for a bit of honesty from my wife. There will be no house, I'm leaving you for another man I've met. S**T - the sledgehammer blow and I've been up and down through despair, sadness, depression, rage, bewilderment.. you name it I've felt it over the last 6 days.
Its really hard to think clearly under these circumstances, your instinct is to want to run and get some space, but with two fantastic young boys to look after that's not an option.
Its hard for me as I've been the primary care giver and have fitted my self-employed work around looking after the boys. My wife is away an awful lot of the time working long hours and then off on shoots. Now I've got to up my financial game immediately or face some serious consequences. I'm trying to write CVs whilst really wanting to do anything but. We live in a small house, in a nice place though. I've asked her to move out, its impossible having her sleeping downstairs while I'm pacing our room wondering what the [censored] happened. And furthermore her new man is a multimillionaire - in the words of Caroline Ahearn (Mrs Merton) to Debbie McGee, what first attracted you to the millionaire xxxxxxxxxxxxx.
I was sort of coming round to a level of coping and then she announces that her new man will be buying a palatial house nearby so she can look after the kids - second sledge hammer. I'm reeling. What kind of man splashes 1.6million on a woman he's known a couple of weeks? I start to get paranoid - is she pregnant? Her best friend assures me she is not, but I'm still not utterly convinced.
The worst thing is your shattered dreams for your children. I come from divorced parents, didn't see my own dad much and hated my step dad. My major number one priority was to keep my family together and give those kids loads of their dad. But its just not up to one of us is it? Ultimately you have almost no control over your wife's decisions.
We had planned to break the news gently to the kids tomorrow, and soften the blow - mum and dad have decided to spend more time apart, that kind of thing. But now this evening I find out she's out with her new man in the most expensive hotel in town for a night of fun no doubt. How can I let her get away with it? I'm desperate to tell the kids the truth, but if that's hurtful then I shouldn't... what the [censored] do I do???
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