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So i had a court order giving me almost 50/50 access to the kids. i get them: 1 week: wed-fri, then 2nd week: thurs-monday.  half of all holidays.

ex has taken me to a finance hearing where it went 60/40 in her favour. cool.

now shes taking me back to court to vary the child arrangement order saying its to disruptive for the kid and that im making my youngest kid who is 4 say bad things to the mother, which is all BS as usual.

have i got anything to worry about.  cafcass have said they will leave the arrangement as it currently is till 1st hearing, but recommend to the judge another section 7 is made.  bare in mind cafcass already did their last section 7 about 1.5 years ago, which ex contested.    

the ex just cant take the way things are with me having good access to the kids, as this is just another attempt for her to try and disrupt my access.  so any advice, what do i need to do, anything to worry about.?  im preety sure she will get the kids to say bad things about me if cafcass speak to them.   shes asking i get every other weekend.

This topic was modified 1 week ago by Vik2001
Topic starter Posted : 16/03/2023 4:39 pm
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Have you done a parenting plan before? If not then I suggest you get one from cafcass site, complete it and give to cafcass person during your interview. You could try use this chance to increase time with kids.

Can explain how you meet the childrens needs, help with their education etc, no safeguarding issues and how arrangements are stable for the children, and that they wish to have reasonable/quality time with both parents.

Posted : 16/03/2023 10:22 pm

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Did a parenting plan before but cafcass ended up deciding what the arrangements shud be as me n ex cudnt agree, and judge agreed. Ex wasn't happy.

Picked my youngest up from school who is 4 yrs old and he was crying first time ever saying he doesn't want to go home with me and wants to go home to his mums. He never done this before, and no doubt the ex has got in his head and funny enough ex is saying I'm saying stuff to him about her.

She's prepping him up and brainwashing him up on what to say if he's spoken to by carcass so it looks like he doesn't want to be with me and I'm bad.

Should I raise this to officer?

I could suggest to courts the we shud have 1 week each on a 50/50 basis if ex things current arrangements is disruptive?

There's no safeguarding concerns and their school reports are good.

Topic starter Posted : 19/03/2023 7:12 pm

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