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So, here is an update. After waiting TWO hours past our time we both entered the court.
The court hadn't received any of the documents (or rather passed them on) and spent zero minutes discussing anything with us. They also didn't read her doctor's report, which was requested from her. I received my documents late from her, but again, it wasn't noted.
But, the judge was very 'honest' and wrote most of the issues that we agreed on straight into an agreement. Very helpful.
The only issue was that we both read one suggested Recommendation from CAFCASS in different ways. So it remained unresolved.
When I got home I realised that it was a suggestion that my son was really against (extra day in the week with my ex). What I should do now? When I told him it had been suggested he said that he didn't want it to happen and that he would lose trust in his mother for not listening when he told her previously that he did not want this.
Do I
a. Approach CAFCASS?
b. Appeal against that decision in my next (final) hearing at court?
c. Something else?
hi,
yes at final hearing, you argue about anything you disagree with.
Bill - thank you very much.
As said above - you will raise this at court.
Put your position in to a brief statement as before and hand this in at the next hearing unless the court have asked for anything prior to the hearing.
You will both have to make your case to the court about the disagreed points.
Generally, the court will go with the Cafcass recommendation unless there is a reason not to.
Hi,
Quick thought - can I request further investigations by an independent social worker if I'm no happy about CAFCASS suggested way forward/ comments?
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