[Solved] Help please !

This is one of the more extreme cases from what i have read, you have been incredibly unlucky and perhaps you enjoy the company of the more difficult women.

Either way its good to hear you have some fighting spirit, so many fathers seem to find it easier to roll over in this situation.

My advice to you focus on getting your current children back and leave your most recent ex alone. It sounds like shes hurting or there is some ill feeling towards you and that you both may just need some time. This may not mean court though, give her some breathing space and after a month or two try again and get in contact with her. After that time perhaps she will be ready to talk about how you can both be parents to your latest edition.

Honestly i cant believe my luck in picking these woman lol

But cheers mate for that advice !

She is pregnant so will give it a few months and try again ... but there just something telling me already that im gona have to fight for this child as well !

But even tho im saying i cant right now , i know i wont have this unborn child grow up without its dad ...

Tho it does concern me that my rights to be in this unborn childs life might now be as powerful given she might not even put my name on the birh certificate ! But in a way i dont care , in the end that still wont stop me fighting when i feel im up to it all again !

Thnaks mate !

awwww........Man a double whammy! my god what an absolute ball ache dude, First and foremost I wouldn't consider not fighting for your unborn Child I know what it's like to grow up knowing my Dad walked out on me, it took me 30 years to get over it and it proper screwed me up from such a young age I wouldn't wish that on anyone thats why I'm fighting so hard for my Daughter I will never give up no matter how hard it gets.

You would have to think how you will cope with the guilt too and always thinking what if I'm fighting tooth and nail for my Girl so I can look her in her eye when she's older and say I've done everything in my power to be there for her no matter what her mum throws at me.

At the end of the day it is the law that a child has the right to both parents in their lives and you WILL get to be part of your child and unborn childs life trust me.

It will seem like the courts are completely against you but as time goes on you will gradually see that things turn in your favour as these Women's lies can't go on forever and they slowly get found out.

Now as you are battling to see your child now at least you will have gained the experience of how to do it the second time round and it isn't to costly if you self rep.

I'd say carry on fighting for your child as it stands then get to mediation asap as you may be able to talk the mother round and come to an agreement save all the court business if you do got mediation it will show the courts that you've tried if it does come to that and you will have to try mediation when baby is born before you can go down the court route anyway.

So in a nutshell carry of fighting now lay down the foundations to fight for your unborn child and crack on you can't walk out on either of your children man no matter how hard it gets.

I've been on the verge of suicide, I've been an emotional wreck for 18 months I am in debt up to my eyeballs and I've felt like throwing the towel in a few times on this [censored] hole of an emotional roller coaster but I simply can't have my Daughter growing up without a Father and for her to have her head wrecked about it for the rest of my life.

You never know the Mother of the unborn baby might come round and if she doesn't you will get all the help and support of us Guys on this site.

Don't give up hope man 🙂

Slim 🙂

and next time bag it! lol :woohoo:

Hahahaha might just chop it off and be done with it ... lol

But mate that reply was amazing and will inspire me to fight for all my kids... born and unborn !

Thanks bud .. really appreciate that message !!!

Tho if im gona have to go down mediation and the court route ... im hoping to at least offer my ex mediation before the baby is born , so if its turned down i can pretty much start court proceedings from the get go !

Tho mate what if she doesnt put me down on the birth certificate ... Im gona go to a lawyer with nothing apart from what i tell him that i am the childs father and its gona effect my chances in court is it not that im not even on the kids birth lines as its dad !

You can go to court for Parental Responsibility once the baby is born.
With regards to mediation, it's a good idea but you have to remember that some woman get
very hormonal during pregnancy and after delivery.
Leave her alone and let her gather her thoughts for a little while and then attempt to get in touch
with her again,perhaps she will be in a better frame of mind.
If not....then you'd have to roll up your sleeves and get ready to do battle once again.
Hang in there
Kirsten

I wouldn't go that far I'd stick with your right had for the time been haha

I'd give mediation a go in a few months if she's still been awkward but the courts will expect you to give it a go when babies born too before you make an application 🙂

I wouldn't go that far I'd stick with your right hand for the time been haha

I'd give mediation a go in a few months if she's still been awkward but the courts will expect you to give it a go when babies born too before you make an application 🙂

Oh so mate , are you saying that if i attempt mediation before the kid is born and nothing comes of it ... i would then be expected to try mediation AGAIN after the kid has been born ?

If thats correct ... then im prob off waiting till the child is born .. then attempt mediation !

Kirsten how do i have the court grant me parental rights etc.... if im not even on the birth certificate ?

Thanks !

From my own experience if you're going to try & be a part of you're unborn child's life then you need to be prepared for the worst!

I doubt if things will change after the child is born (Hormones)

You need to start making notes about everything that has happened during the relationship for future use if you go via the court route! although from my experience the court route will only turn your ex against you more & make things very hostile

Be ready for claims of domestic violence if you do apply for contact via the courts. And be prepared for the Ex to take out a Non-Molestation order against you! It's the norm & dirty tricks used by solicitors......

Don't do anything that can be used against you & keep copies of all texts, emails etc

I would say give the Ex space & let her give birth & if no contact from her then if you want to pursue it then you'll have to apply for contact

It's a very long process with no guaranteed outcome

Good Luck!