Hi there I'm try to found out about my ex her name is Melanie Louise Jane smith she had trouble with three ex partner and she had social services helping her and I'm need to found out about her past because I've got a four year old son with her and I'm not aloud to see him plz can u help with her past history she trying to stop me seeing my son and I know there problems there all I care about is the safety of my son plz plus she causing me problems and threatening to hurt me and my new partner as well can u help me plz plus there been violence in the past relationships and I'm scared for the son and other people can u plz help with this information plz plus I know from the last relationship she had a name change and all that from London with her mum and dad can I help plz
Hi there
I'm not sure exactly what help you are asking for... do you know where your son is living?
If she is threatening you and your new partner you really should report her to the police and get an injunction to stop her threatening you.
If you know where she lives you can apply to the family court for a child Arrangements Order to sort out contact. They will look into her past and yours too.
If you don't know where she is living you can also apply to the court to ask them to find her and your son, once you have dont that you can then apply for contact with your child.
Best of luck
Hi I've done everythink u said and there trying to being up the old cases against me I've done time for a crime I didn't do to my ex and I'm trying to keep legal aid but I'm having trouble with it and no one want to listen to me in anyway I'm a first time dad and all this is all new to me
Hi there
Unfortunately they will look into a persons background where the safety of a child is at stake... if you were convicted of a crime against your ex, the court won't consider that you might be innocent, as you were found guilty and had to do time for it.
Legal Aid has been unavailable for family law cases since 2014, except for people that are resident in Scotland, is that where you live?
You must try and do everything that the court asks of you, because of what happened in the past, it won't be easy and it will take time.
All the best
Hi there there hiding her past history of my ex past I don't know why that is I've tried everythink how do I sort this out plz her past is really bad I've ask everyone I can think of I need help plz
All you can do is to ask the court to look into her past, they can order that her records be made available, just the same as with your records. If you are going through court, when a case is going through court it's usually automatic that both parents backgrounds and history are looked at, so if she has a history of involvement with police or other agencies they should know about it.
We been in court three years and all the courts are saying is about my past and nothink of her past it killing me big time all I want to be is a gd dad to my son and have more kids with my new miss help
I understand it's tough for you, but without knowing much more about your case specifically, it's impossible to offer anything other than general advice.
You could try calling the Child Law Advice line, or attending a Families Need Fathers meeting, here's a link to their website where you'll find details of meetings across the country, hopefully there will be one near enough to you. They can offer advice and support and it's just good to talk with other people going through a similar situation.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
Hope that helps.
Here's a link to the Child Law Adviceline
Can anyone tell me what I can do about what going plz also I've been harassed by my ex and when I come out of prison and she say now she want me back with her but I'm with my new girlfriend and we happy but police don't help if there get called I get nicked for things it doing are head in big time
I'm not sure what specific advice you are after beyond what you have been given above - I think it would be worth attending your local families need fathers group as suggested above. If you have definite questions, we can try to help on here.
Do you have a probation officer that could help you?
If you and your new partner are being harassed and you are worried about the police reaction to you, your partner could report the harassment.
As actd has said, if you have any specific questions we will do our best to help you, the Families Need Fathers website has a helpline number, if you needed to talk to someone that might be helpful to you.