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Hi everyone,
I have just become a father of my beautiful daughter of only 1 week.
My ex-girlfriend has put her new boyfriend on the birth certificate and is now telling me she wants me to grow up as my daughters Uncle and just let the new boyfriend be the Dad.
I am not happy about this at all. I want my daughter to know i'm her Dad and that I will always be there for her. I can't bare the thought of not being her Father.
I don't know who to talk to or where to get advice. I am willing to what ever it takes.
Please can someone point me in the right direction.
Many many thanks
Regards
Chris
Hi Chris 🙂
You sound very much the proud Dad so let me send you big congratulations for the arrival of your baby girl 🙂
It is an offence under the Perjury act 1911 to knowingly make a false statement on a birth certificate. I think you need to get some legal advice on your options.
I'm going to have a look round and see what I can find out for you, in the meantime it might be worth taking advantage of the free initial consultation that some solicitors offer, or we can ask the Coram Children's Legal Centre to come and give you some advice....it can take a couple of days for them to respond on here so if you can't wait there is a link to their website at the bottom of the page. 🙂
Nannyjane,
Thank you for replying. I will definitely look into contacting a Solicitor.
I have posted a message to the guys on here, hopefully they will be able to shine some light on what I should do also.
As far as the Perjury act you referenced, I don't know how that can be of an advantage. As things stand I am going to try my best to be as civil as possible i.e. I don't want it to turn into a big 'me vs her' situation where it can be avoided. Not that i'm not willing to go all the way with it, but i really want to focus on my daughter and her well being and happiness and not have to spend my time thinking of ways to get at my ex.
Who are the Coram Childrens Legal Centre? I will look into them after writing this.
Once again many thanks 🙂
Regards
Chris
..i wasnt suggesting ways to get back at your ex, just furnishing you with the facts!... and you're right, it is best to try and develop an amicable relationship with the mother of your child. Good luck with that.
As much as you may not want things to turn sour, if as you say you are willing to do whatever it takes, then you may have to fight for your rights in the end.
As I'm not one of the "guys" on here...obviously!... and you've messaged them, I shall step aside and leave you in their capable hands!
The CCLC offer free legal advice as long as you don't have a solicitor appointed. There is a link to them at the bottom of the website.
Congratulations!
It is most certainly against the law to put the name of another person as the father on the birth certificate!
I appreciate you want to keep things amicable but what is going to happen about contact?
You could try mediation but I suspect she knows that what she has done is wrong, and will not want to attend.
If your girlfriend continues to refuse to allow your name to be put on the Birth Certificate, then you will have no other option but to go to court to obtain your rights, and to include a Declaration of Parentage/Parental Responsibility/Contact.
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