I haven't posted for a long time now.
I had a fact finding hearing and half of my exs allegations of domestic abuse were found to be true (all in front of our child) it was a really bad day couple of days In court. My mum was found to be not a credible witness. The barrister basically tore me to shreds. The judge then ordered a hair strand test. Which I did and now the results have come back as a low level of weed and a medium cocaine useage from December-March I did everything to try to get the stuff out my system. My barrister told me the judge wouldn't order the test but the ex offered to pay. Big of her when she's on legal aid. I still don't know if I'll be accepted on the domestic abuse program. I'm heading for no contact arent i? I'm such an idiot. It's just the stress of it all has been killing me.
Me and my family are in so much debt now too and the solicitor has come off the court record as acting for me because we can't pay them!
There's nowhere to go from here is there really? This is our second year into the court proceedings.
All is not lost mate so don't fret first and foremost don't smoke anymore weed or have a sniff then make sure you do another hair strand test in 3 months I swear this will go down well with the judge, they will want to see you making an effort to come completely clean so if you bowl in there with a negative drug test that will do you the world of good also phone frank and any other drug support groups seek help from your GP and all that will go in your favour, yeah you've got a bit of a up hill battle but honestly you will get there it's just going to take a little longer 🙂
Never give up mate! Stay away from the drugs, seek help if you lack the will power, and soon you'll have your kids back.
I don't know the background of your case but if there are no allegation of you being violent to your kids then the judges won't rule no contact.
If you've been found guilty of DV against your wife more than likely you'll be sent on a DV course.
Just read the background of your case.
So the DV allegations are between yourself and your wife. Has she made any allegations about you being a threat to your baby? The fact you have contact at a CC is positive. Once you pass your drug test, the judge will look to progress it.
My wife has a non molestation order on me based on DV. I've never been arrested, she has never reported me, she has no evidence beyond her lies but the order was maintained because she recorded an argument between us where I threatened her. She instigated the argument, set me up, even the judge said that it's obvious this is what happened, but kept the order in place. I'm now waiting around for a court date for contact. Currently have unsupervised at a contact centre but I expect the wife to pull out the DV card. She wants me to have contact but it's when it suits her.
We need to keep fighting.
