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Hi
I have recently separated from my partner earlier this year.
She opted to move out and rented accommodation for her and the kids.
I have tried to keep things amicable for the sake of the children.
Initially she placed the options as me to buy her out or for us to sell the property.
We attended a mediation meeting about this.
On the first meeting she added another option, which was relating to the childrens act 1989. I understand that this is an expensive route to go down.
During mediation this was pointed out to us both, and we were made aware that legal aid would only be granted in family law cases if eligibility was met ie earning less than 2600 gross per month, and also if there were any extenuating circumstances. These being domestic violence claims.
My ex partner said that she had discussed this with her solicitor and said that he beleived she had a good case for getting legal aid and she was waiting to hear about that.
I have two questions
1) To obtain legal aid she must have claimed domestic abuse/violence - this is however completly untrue. Bar the occasional argument there has never been any violence expressed.
Looking at the evidence required to be submitted for a claim to be processed it looks like there has to be a certain amount of evidence required. I have reason to beleive that she may have reported me to the police, but have not had a caution therefore that should negate that. Non of the other evidence requirements seem to be met. The only possible one relates to her paying her GP for a medical report, I recal she was having some problems with her digestion which when we had talked about it we thought it might be gluten intolerance or coelic desease however I think her angle maybe that this could have been caused by the stress of the relationship. I am not sure how this would stand up.
I guess the question is - can she just be awarded legal aid based on some made up evidence she has peiced together based on lies, and manipulation and if she is claiming domestic abuse to get legal aid would I not have the opertunity to defend myself first?How does this process work?
2) If she was awarded legal aid, and decided to progress with pushing through the child act, as I do not qualify for legal aid, and cannot really afford a solicitor how would I go about representation.
At the moment i feel totally screwed. All I have ever done is worked hard, provided for my partner and kids, and yet now she has decided to leave and her jusification is this wild allegations of abuse which havent actually happened. It all seems a bit conveinient to me in the light of legal aid being withdrawn in April for family matters that these sort of claims materialise.
I would have thought the whole application side of things would have to be means tested, and not just someone sat there listening to one half of a story to grant legal aid. So be interested to know how the process actually works and what I would need to do?
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