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(@jaylee)
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Hi,

Well some of you know my story so I won't go over it again. After all the stress and everything I can say that I was surprised by it all. Having not received my s2 report before hand as it had to seek the courts approval - which was granted, the cafcass officer was alright although not the greatest organised by the looks of it as she turned up 5 mins before the hearing was supposed to take place and I was supposed to see them half hour before the hearing. My ex didn't really sling mud in it either like I suspected she would have done. She told them that the reason I can't have contact is I used an adult website (porn) not from the house or the home computer :puzzled:

I came out of it for the interim order as attend a spip programme, access to my daughter only via a contact centre (son apparently still doesn't want to know me) a wishes and feelings exercise to be carried out with my son, and an s7 review to be carried out, next in court in November - final hearing

So not all bad could have been a lot worse I suppose and means I am getting there

Just need to know what cafcass are going to do in the s7 report. So I can prepare 🙂

A few personal thank yous to those that have helped me from here I won't mention names but they know who they are!!!!

Couldn't have done it without you

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Topic starter Posted : 28/08/2014 8:05 pm
(@nick1200)
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Normally the judge will start contact via contact center in the first hearing to get the bond back. Then in the next court you can say i have seen them in the contact center x amount of times and all went well then the judge can increase it.I had the same happen to me a section 7 report was asked to be done with me and all they do is come out to my home and make sure the home is safe for the children and then they talk with the kids to see what there thoughts was.My kids are to young to talk so my report said the house was safe and that was it.

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Posted : 29/08/2014 12:09 am
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(@mr-slim)
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Whoop! Whoop! that sounds sweet as mate well done! That's great news that they've awarded contact straight away and the final hearing isn't to far away either!

An S7 is basically a more in depth interview conducted by Cafcass where they will look a little deeper into the whole thing they will be trying to find out about any skeletons in the closet, check police records ect they will interview maybe at home or at their offices it usually depends how busy they are and they love telling you how much they've got on.

My S7 was conducted for an hour at their local office and I thought it went pretty well until I seen the report and I got absolutely ripped to shreds it was a shocker believe me, I'm just doing a revised guide to dealing with cafcass which will be up shortly so have a read of that.

I'm glad it went better than expected court but don't let your guard down as you never know what may be around the corner.

Slim 🙂

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Posted : 29/08/2014 4:15 am
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(@1626)
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That's great news jaylee, sounds like it's heading in the right direction.

Have a read of Slim's posts on dealing with Cafcass and just make sure you chase them up when you need to, ensuring they do what they need to do in time for the next hearing. Partner's case was delayed by another 4 months because Cafcass didn't file on time and the courts didn't let him know until he was in the actual hearing.

🙂

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Posted : 29/08/2014 11:15 am
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(@jaylee)
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Well I've just read into the report from the court that thy made and it states supervised contact at a centre near me but I spoke the centre today and they don't do supervised visits they only do supported contact. So if I pursue this avenue I will be breaking the court order and if I don't I will also be breaking the order. I rang cafcass today to explain this and my case officer is now on annual leave!! So I explained the situation the guy on the phone and he said it maybe an error made by the court and will look I to it. They also said they will speak to my ex and see it this is suitable as it is still at the contact centre which is staffed but only supported not supervised.

It just seemed one step forward and now 2 steps backwards. Hopefully this will be an easy resolution

On the note that she hasn't thrown any accusations other than that one does that mean she can't throw any now that will be listened to? Just I know she will be fuming that I got that much at court.

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Topic starter Posted : 29/08/2014 11:58 pm
 actd
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Well if she does suddenly throw any new accusations, the first question I would hope a court would ask is why hasn't she made them before? I would think the court would be very suspicious of anything that wasn't mentioned before.

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Posted : 31/08/2014 12:25 am

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