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Hello I'm a dad of 2 children a boy of 7yrs and a girl of 2yrs well around mid June my partner of almost 10years ask me to leave our relationship was up and down due to a work accident I had in feb2010 I broke my spine luckily I can still walk but the operation was unsuccessful and iv not been working
My daughter was born in august 2010 and iv spent every second of every day with her and it was amazing I'm really deeply missing my children and it was my sons 7th birthday on 24/09 Monday I was invited to go to my old house and spend a hour with my children result absolute pleasure I loved every min with them now I still have tools around there so I took my drill and the engagement rings back as I did tell my ex partner that I will be taking my rings back due the the fact that I bought her a new one about a month before she decided to kick me out and end our relationship it cost was just over £2,000 it was a 0.75kt diamond ring
Any way she started with the hostil mood toward me and told me to get out very abruptly my daughter didn't want me to go my son was playing his new game on the xbox so I was again kicked out.
Iv met a fantastic lady who has a 11 yr old daughter and they both adore me and I'm very fond of them we are dating eachother and it seems to be going well any way about 10pm my mother calls me and says the police are looking for me so I went back to my mums where I'm staying I called the police and was told nothing the next morning tuesday 25/09 I was arrested on a charge of theft of £30.00 my ex told the police I stolen money actually I could not believe what I was hearing any way the police interviewed me and released me with a no further action order in other words I wasn't charged and now iv been subject to Facebook bullying from her friends and iv tried to contact her to talk to my children and sort out seeing them and she ain't answering the phone she has even changed the locks and we both in the tenancy I ain't got a clue where to go from now she won't allow my kids up at my mothers she making every effort to avoid letting me see them
Hi and welcome.
The first step is to see if your ex will consider mediation with regards to contact as it's preferable to come to an agreement if possible rather than having to resort to court, unless absolutely necessary.
Hi there
As its only been three months since you split up from your ex, things may still be a bit raw. I can imagine that taking back the engagement rings wouldnt have gone down too well and if your ex knows you are in another relationship, then that too might be upsetting for her, even though she may have instigated the break up.
Because of the police involvement, she is obviously angry with you, so I would let things settle down and then try to make contact again.
If she continues to ignore your requests then as actd says, you could try mediation.
Might I suggest that you dont respond to the Facebook bullying, but keep them just in case you need to prove that your ex is being unreasonable, if it goes to court...although I do hope that you will be able to come to an understanding without the neeed for court intervention.
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